How To Inspire Intimacy Without Even Touching
When mentioning sex and intimacy, most people might think of physical touch and sexual intercourse. We aren’t all wired the same, for some, the idea of physical touch as the primary form of connecting could be a little overwhelming.
Some might appreciate other forms of connection as foreplay or even the main event. Another reason for exploring no-touch intimacy could be to spice up your long-distance relationship. Many times partners have to travel for business and are looking for new ways to connect. Isn’t it great to know that there are so many styles and modes of reaching a level of intimacy with ourselves and our partners?
Let’s take a look at no-touch intimacy options that you can experiment with:
Be Vulnerable
A sure way to show your significant other that you are open to building a connection is by being vulnerable. Opening up about our lives and struggles can be a brave task to undertake, and having your partner accept the ‘whole’ you without judgment can build a strong foundation for intimacy and connection. If you are having a tough time opening up to each other, couples therapy could be a great starting point.
It’s the Small Things
A great way to show your partner that you’ve been taking notice of their likes and dislikes, and most importantly that you’ve been listening - is through surprise gifts and gestures. We all want to feel heard and seen for who we are and what we’ve experienced. Try to find ways to inspire self-care for your partner as well. Sometimes, intimacy can look like sharing the load of everyday responsibilities.
Be Strangers
Role play is not in everyone’s arsenal, but you can take a jab at it by sitting at different tables in the same coffee shop or restaurant. Look at each other from a distance, and communicate only through eye contact. Pretend that you are looking at each other for the first time and notice what types of feelings arise.
Play and Create
Do you enjoy dominating ‘games night’ as team members, or even competing against each other? We sometimes forget how important ‘play’ is, no matter your age. For those currently dating long distance, there are various game apps that you can play together. Do you share a hobby with your partner? Cooking together, building or renovating, or even taking an art class could inspire connection. The more senses engaged, the better.
Watch, Don’t Touch
On a spicier note, withholding your urges can also be a great form of intimacy. Dare your partner to touch themselves while you are watching. The idea is to appreciate their connection with themselves and focus on their arousal, not just your own. Some couples might also enjoy a bit of voyeurism, having their partners ‘watch’ them digitally, or even peeking through the doorway. Keep the focus on a shared experience through individual touch.
