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What’s your relationship with food?

Do you find yourself skipping meals? Are you an emotional eater? These are interesting questions to ask yourself. Food isn’t like Alcohol or Drugs whereby we can choose to have them in our lives or not. Food is something that everyone has to have a relationship with. It’s determining what that relationship is.

Some people use food as a way to figuratively stuff down emotions. It feels much better to eat those feelings because expressing them may not feel safe to you. You may feel once you open that metaphorical can of worms, there is no going back and you even worry it would all get so overwhelming to the point you wouldn’t be able to function or work. And lets face it, everyone needs to pay those bills. It feels much better to repress and carry on. You get stuck in this ‘keep going’ mode.

What people don’t see is that repressing an emotion, just makes the emotions build up and that’s where it becomes unbearable and feels out of control. That’s how you sink lower in despair. Simply learning to feel your feelings more, instead of trying to get away from them, will help you move ‘through’ that emotion and it will have less control and power over you. Once the emotion is felt, you can move on quickly. It can kind of dissipate. The more you hold onto something, the more problematic it can get.

Another form of relationship with food, that I feel is slightly misunderstood, are the people that won’t allow themselves to be nourished by food. They may feel they need to withhold food until a task is done, like it’s a reward, rather than something that’s essential to life. It often gets misconstrued for someone who is uncomfortable with their body, but, a lot of the time, withholding food is usually a way to feel in control, when everything in life seems out of control. Food issues are, for the most part, not about food. It’s about the underlying issue you are trying to get away from, escape from. In either instance, if you learn to create more control in other areas of your life, you will feel less of a need to control your food intake. And even better you can learn to actually enjoy food. 

Mental Health Concerns for Millennials

Millennials are a stressed generation. They are working more hours, making less than older generations and have mountains of student loan debt. Stress not only hurts their emotional and mental wellbeing, but it is also damaging their sex lives.

Mental Health

Millennials are reported to have higher rates of anxiety and depression than any generation before them. This can be attributed to a growing conversation around mental health which has prompted them to come forward with their struggles. Regardless, living with a mental health condition can present challenges when it comes to intimacy and sex. Depression and anxiety can leave us with a lack of interest in sex and intimacy, and having a low libido is often a side-effect of antidepressants. Managing mental health is vital to one’s health. If you are feeling depressed or anxiety, seek help from your doctor and mental health professionals.

Chronic Stress

Working 45+ hours a week, having a side business, and maintaining a social life can leave anyone feeling drained. Many 20 and 30 somethings are working hard to build their business while sacrificing their love life. Nothing is sexier than someone with ambition, but that bubble bursts when a significant other forgets about their partner. Work-life balance is an important thing and something everyone benefits from. On average, employees who take time off and have boundaries around not answering phone calls and email off work hours tend to be happier. And when you are happier and less stressed, it allows you to connect with your partner.

Hormone Imbalance

Testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone can all impact our sex lives. Having happy and balanced hormones is essential for keeping our sex drive up. When we have an increase of stress in our lives, our cortisol levels rise and directly affect our hormones in a negative way, impacting our sex drive. Managing stress will help to keep your hormones balanced. Meditation, exercise and eating a healthy, well-balanced diet with limited processed foods will help maintain your hormones. With the demands of work, time for family and friends, it’s no wonder millennials are having less sex on average. These overworked, underpaid 20 and 30 somethings are feeling the reality of a changing world. At the same time, it is important for millennials to remember sex and intimacy are an important part, of well...being human.

Maintaining a healthy work-life balance, and keeping your mental and physical health in check will help to make your sex life more enjoyable!

Let's Talk About Depression

October is Depression Awareness Month and at Sun Point Wellness Center we welcome all who wish to discuss or share their experiences with depression. With this piece, we aim to help raise awareness of depression and the common signs that a person who suffers from depression may experience. 

Signs of Depression

Understanding depression and the impact it has on the lives of many people around world is necessary in order to reduce and prevent the ill-effects depression can have on someone’s life. Below are some common signs that you or someone you know and love may experience if suffering from depression. While each sign in isolation is not a guarantee the person in question is suffering from depression, experiencing all or multiple signs below at the same time can be a very clear indicator of depression. 

Lack of enthusiasm. An initial sign of depression is a lack of enthusiasm or pleasure from activities and hobbies that were once enjoyed. This includes sports, sex, socializing and many other activities. Although occasional subside in enthusiasm can be normal, especially if you are having a bad day or period. Frequent or a permanent lack of interest, especially if the reason is unknown, in activities once enjoyed is possible symptom of depression. 

Negative outlook. Another sign that someone may be experiencing depression is if they have a considerably negative perspective on life. Especially if it interferes or prevents them from being happy. Usual examples of this are feelings of worthlessness, feeling undeserving of happiness or frequently feeling guilty even when nothing has been done to negatively impact someone else. 

While it can be hard to discern if what someone is feeling is depression or if they are just having a bad day, a good way to tell the difference is by the frequency of these negative feelings. If the potential suffer is feeling worthless or guilty on a daily basis, it is most likely an indicator of depression. 

Disquietude. Being easily irritated, feeling restless and having difficulty concentrating are all potential signs someone suffering from depression may exhibit. Common consequences of this are: insomnia - struggling or failing to sleep, especially without medication; anxiety - regularly feeling nervous, fear or distress to point it becomes inhibitive; and distraction - being unable to focus to the point it prevents decision making and comprehension of relatively routine tasks. 

Overcoming Depression

Depression is significantly mentally and physically draining and can inhibit someone from enjoying life and being happy. It can also lead to severe consequences including mental and physical health complications and an overall degraded wellbeing. In some extreme cases, it can also lead to suicide. 

Preventing depression is better than trying to cure it. However, we understand this is not an easy task and this advice does not help existing suffers of depression. Some general advice on to reduce depressive episodes includes: 

Avoiding distressing environments. Everyone should avoid or reduce the amount of times they are exposed to distressing environments. Environments such as ones that can result in feeling unsafe, scared or endangered are textbook examples.

Reach out. It is important to remain connected to friends, family and supportive members of the community. For example, make it routine to regularly call relatives and arrange to meet with friends for outings. Do not forget the power of face-to-face socializing. While calling and texting are great ways to communicate conveniently, in-person meeting are invaluable for a healthy social lifestyle. 

Exercise. Keeping active and moving helps everyone physically and mentally. It helps boost moods and serves as a positive distraction from worries someone may be have. 

Find Enjoyable Activities. It is very effective to partake in activities that boost moods, whether it is listening to music, decorating or going on a road trip. Everyone should try and incorporate ways to elevate their mood and remain positive. 

If you are already suffering from depression or concerned that you may be developing symptoms of depression, we strongly advise you seek appropriate professional support. Here at Sun Point Wellness Center, we provide professional and effective therapy sessions that are dedicated to helping individuals suffering from depression or those concerned they may have depression. Enquire at our Silver Spring, Maryland office for advice or to arrange a session. 

A Pause from Busy

Busy – we hear that word a lot in our culture.  Sometimes things get a little too hectic and we lose sight of what’s really important in our lives.  With work, school, and our family come obligations and some pressures.  Sometimes dealing with mounting pressures can be overwhelming, but with the right support you can thrive.

At Sun Point Wellness, we strive to create an environment where you can experience lasting positive change in your life. We take an individualized approach to therapy and use a combination of professional knowledge, evidence-based practices and genuine face-to-face support to help you transform the way you view stress.  And we give you a space away from busy to reflect on your life.

Each counseling session is designed to help you work through the obstacles that are holding you back. We use integrate mindfulness and holistic approaches to walk you through the process of understanding yourself, and create a sustainable foundation on which you can build a better life.

All you have to do is tell us a little about the changes you hope to gain from therapy. We don’t believe in a generalized approach to therapy.  No matter what issue you face, our individualized sessions create an unobstructed pathway towards the health and wellness goals you hope to achieve.